Warning! This is a Reaction!

I suppose I am naive. I suppose, this is something expected. But I did not see this coming, I did not expect this, especially from the source, but then again . . .

This morning on GMA there was a story about Pat Robertson’s answer to a question sent in by a viewer this aired on Tuesday’s program. The question had to do with a friend whose spouse was suffering from Alzheimer’s. This friend was lonely and wanted to move on. Pat Robertson’s answer was, “I know it sounds cruel, but if he’s going to do something, he should divorce her and start all over again, but make sure she has custodial care and somebody looking after her.” After a question about “for better or for worse” from co-host Terry Meeuwsen, Robertson replied, “If you respect that vow, you say ’til death do us part. This is a kind of death.”

Can Robertson see the conclusions of his so-called logic. Cancer is in some cases a kind of death. Spinal chord injuries similar to Christopher Reeves’ injury are a kind of death. Lou Gehrig’s Disease is a kind of death. There are many things one might consider a kind of death.

Robertson’s answer hints at what is wrong with many marriages and in the lives of many people. That problem is that we are full of self. Many are neglecting to submit to any authority other than their own desires. How many times do I hear people say, “but God would want me to be happy.”  I dare you to find that phrase in the Bible. I know the Bible talks about joy, but the joy the Bible speaks of is a joy beyond what this world has to offer. Joy in the Bible comes from being in Christ not from living of the world. The Bible does teach that God wants something for us, He wants the best for us, not what we think is best, but what He knows is best. Ultimately what God wants for all people is eternal happiness in an eternal reward (2 Pet 3:9; 1 Tim 2:4).

I am currently watching a Godly man stay by his wife’s (of over 50 years) side as she slowly departs this world. For the last 7+ years, he is continually, tenderly, patiently, and lovingly taking care of all her needs. This man was an active person, out in the community, but for the most part of the last decade, he stays at home by her side showing her love and graciously submitting to her every need. This is a picture of the love God has for us, this is a picture of what marriage is to be, not what Robertson describes.

Please tell me if I am wrong.


9 thoughts on “Warning! This is a Reaction!

    • Thanks for reading, posting and the subscription too. I am appalled at Robertson’s tactless and irresponsible answer. Not only does it go against what the Bible teaches on marriage and love in general, his response also goes against compassion.

      My prayers are with your family as you deal with Alzheimer’s in your family.

      • Kevin,

        Thanks for reading and encouraging me by your reply. Appalled my be too kind to describe my feelings. I see Alzheimer’s all around me and see the loneliness of those suffering without family and I see the love in some families that helps the sufferer through the manifold stages of the disease.

  1. As I attended to my mother in the assisted living facility, I talked often to a woman who came daily to care for and feed her husband. At this point in his life he only knew her as that woman, but she still was there. She and others took their wedding vows seriously.

    • Dad,

      I know what you and mom went through taking care of your mom and Mom’s dad. I know there were times your were frustrated and that the stress was difficult. Thank you for showing a selfless love – the kind of love the world so desperately needs.

      I know the love you showed them and the love that you and Mom show each other. Your example of marriage is not lost on your sons and their wives. Nor is it lost on your grandchildren. Thanks for the encouragement you continually give me in my work and in my life.

    • Tim,

      Look at #patrobertson on twitter and see the reaction he is getting. He really inserted his foot deep this time. The blogs here is lighting up with people genuinely and rightly upset at his comment. His statement is so unChristlike. I cannot imagine what he was thinking to make such a statement.

  2. If I remember correctly… my vows were “in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”
    Sickness (merriam webster):
    Definition of SICKNESS
    a : ill health : illness
    b : a disordered, weakened, or unsound condition
    : a specific disease

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