This morning on GMA there was a story about Pat Robertson’s answer to a question sent in by a viewer this aired on Tuesday’s program. The question had to do with a friend whose spouse was suffering from Alzheimer’s. This friend was lonely and wanted to move on. Pat Robertson’s answer was, “I know it sounds cruel, but if he’s going to do something, he should divorce her and start all over again, but make sure she has custodial care and somebody looking after her.” After a question about “for better or for worse” from co-host Terry Meeuwsen, Robertson replied, “If you respect that vow, you say ’til death do us part. This is a kind of death.”
Can Robertson see the conclusions of his so-called logic. Cancer is in some cases a kind of death. Spinal chord injuries similar to Christopher Reeves’ injury are a kind of death. Lou Gehrig’s Disease is a kind of death. There are many things one might consider a kind of death.
Robertson’s answer hints at what is wrong with many marriages and in the lives of many people. That problem is that we are full of self. Many are neglecting to submit to any authority other than their own desires. How many times do I hear people say, “but God would want me to be happy.” I dare you to find that phrase in the Bible. I know the Bible talks about joy, but the joy the Bible speaks of is a joy beyond what this world has to offer. Joy in the Bible comes from being in Christ not from living of the world. The Bible does teach that God wants something for us, He wants the best for us, not what we think is best, but what He knows is best. Ultimately what God wants for all people is eternal happiness in an eternal reward (2 Pet 3:9; 1 Tim 2:4).
I am currently watching a Godly man stay by his wife’s (of over 50 years) side as she slowly departs this world. For the last 7+ years, he is continually, tenderly, patiently, and lovingly taking care of all her needs. This man was an active person, out in the community, but for the most part of the last decade, he stays at home by her side showing her love and graciously submitting to her every need. This is a picture of the love God has for us, this is a picture of what marriage is to be, not what Robertson describes.
Please tell me if I am wrong.