What is the Reason Why?

Everything? Happens for a Reason?

I am not sure what everyone who says that phrase means by it. I am not sure everyone who says it understands what they are saying. It sounds like a statement of faith. It sounds noble to say. Yet it communicates the following idea: “Although I do not know why this is happening, I trust that God is doing this for a reason and I will just wait to learn the lesson God has for me to learn.” I have to ask. Please help me understand. Does everything happen for a reason that God has in His plan?

I don’t think so!

If everything happens for reason designed by God then we have no free will. That means that God predetermines every aspect of my life including my faith or lack thereof. I know that followers of Calvinism will agree. But did God really have a reason for me to play basketball in the dark and stub my toe on an exposed, but stealthily hidden root?

If everything happens for a reason, why did the inspired apostle and Biblical writer Paul say “perhaps” and not, “I know.” When writing to Philemon about Onesimus? “For this perhaps is why he was parted from you for a while, that you might have him back forever, no longer as a slave but more than a slave, as a beloved brother–especially to me, but how much more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord.” (Phm 1:15-16). If Paul cannot be definitive about God having a reason, why should we claim God has reason for all the events in our lives?

If everything happens for a reason designed by God then we face TEMPTATION for a Reason. However, consider instead what James has to say: Jas 1:12-18, Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him. Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death. Do not be deceived, my beloved brothers. Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change. Of his own will he brought us forth by the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures. What is that you say James? God does not tempt. Paul lets his readers know that not only is God NOT the author of temptation, but provides help for us to avoid sin, 1 Cor 10:13, No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. What do you mean, Paul? God wants our success.

If everything happens for a reason designed by God they we ALWAYS SUFFER for a Reason at the hand of God. Personally, I think we are quick to say “there is a reason for everything” because, like our children, we like immediate answers and results. The oven door barely closes and your children ask, “When will the pizza be ready?” We pray to God to help us find a job and in our next prayer we ask, “God, when will I get that job?” A family member or we ourselves suffer a tragedy and we ask, “God, why did You do this to me? I know everything happens for a reason, what is the reason?”

However, we must not blame God for what He does not do. After telling a parable about weeds in harvest and the coming of the reapers Jesus explains the parable to the disciples as recorded by Matthew in 13:37-43. Notice who Jesus blames for the causing the weeds, “He answered, “The one who sows the good seed is the Son of Man. The field is the world, and the good seed is the sons of the kingdom. The weeds are the sons of the evil one, and the enemy who sowed them is the devil. The harvest is the close of the age, and the reapers are angels.”(underline emphasis – BSMc)

For a case study, let me introduce you to Les Ferguson, Jr. a minister in Gulfport, Mississippi. On October 10 this year a man he and his family were trying to help spiritually and financially came into their home and murdered Ferguson’s wife and one son. The alleged murderer later committed suicide in an apartment not far from the couple’s home. Les Ferguson does not state a belief that God had a reason for this tragedy. In fact the Christian Chronicle reported the following quote from Ferguson about the tragedy stating the obvious point that in the midst of this unimaginable tragedy, his faith still survives.

“God didn’t do this,” said Ferguson, preaching minister for the Orange Grove Church of Christ in Gulfport, Miss. “This was just evil.”

Everything may have a reason. But that reason is not always God. The reason may be my poor choice. The reason may be the poor choice of someone else. The reason could very well be the influence of Satan in the world. And perhaps, the reason could be God’s blessing, after all “every good and every perfect gift is from above.”

– – Scott


  1. (Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible: English Standard Version, copyright 2001 Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.)
  2. http://www.christianchronicle.org/article2159498~%27God_didn%27t_do_this%27%3A_Minister_grieves_slain_wife%2C_son

5 thoughts on “What is the Reason Why?

    • You are right. We need to learn the art of silent compassion. Jobs friends were good for a week, they just sat there in silence. Their ignorance and arrogance only showed when they each opened their mouth to speak.

      Unfortunately this is not the only thing people should not say when tragedy strikes. One of my least favorites to hear at a funeral or wake is, “God needed them with Him, so He called them Home.” Do we really want to imply that God is so selfish that He would take a loved one away from me?

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  2. When my mom and then sister died, I collected things I didnt like to hear and work to not repeat them. That was one of them. “God wont give you more than you can handle” was one, primarily because it is misquoted–more temptation than you can handle is more accurate. “They are in a better place” didnt really ease my pain and seemed to suggest ‘out od sight, should be out of mind’ philosophy. There were others. About a month later, I began to realy ponder those things and figured that they bothered me because they seemed to be pushing me out of grief, or suggesting how to ‘get over it’ and move on. The solice I sought was the very few people who would come along side and just be with me instead of people teling me a ‘to do’ list. Nice blog, got me to thinking.

    • DrT,

      I am sorry for your losses and the callousness of many who think they are helping. I began the journey to this understanding while still in High School. My best-fried with whom I spent many hours at school, church, and in each other’s homes, had a grandfather that was adamantly opposed to his involvement in religion and did his best to keep him and others away from the Church. This grandfather passed away of lung cancer and my friend was hurting. “Christians” from church made statements similar to the ones you and I mentioned including, “God had a reason.” This started a downward spiral for my friend that included many dangerous activities and his giving up on God for many years. His statement to me was, “If God took my grandfather, while I needed him, then I cannot love God.” I am happy to say he has come back to God, but it was more than a decade after his grandfather’s death that my friend was able to again trust the Lord. All because someone said the wrong thing.

      Thanks again for reading and commenting.

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