We are social beings; we need good friends. We need friends who will comfort us, and who will love us unconditionally. We need friends who will correct us and challenge us to grow. The wise man says there is a friend who is closer than a brother (Prov 18:24). In many ways Jesus is that friend. But we all want a friend or five who we can see.
The apostle Paul warns us that a poor choice in companions can ruin our morals (1 Cor 15:33), so how can we choose good friends?
Prov 13:20, “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”
Start by choosing friends who display prudence (wisdom / discernment) in their life.
Choose friends who seek after righteousness and who will help you (as you help them) draw closer to God.
How Can I Choose Good Friends?
Here is my list of 10 things to look for in a friend (a.k.a. Ten Ways to be a True Friend):
- Controls their tongue
- Keeps their promises
- Chooses kindness
- Shows interest / empathy
- Is cheerful
- Lives in purity (with virtue)
- Is open minded, can disagree cordially
- Is aware or and careful of others feelings
- Does not let criticism offend them, but instead uses criticism for self=improvement
- Deflects praise, does not take all the credit all the time.
Be the friend your friends need!