Everyone of us enter marriage with certain expectations. Some are natural, some are achievable, and some are just plain unrealistic. These unrealistic expectations have potential to damage your continued marital happiness, so I suggest that you avoid them.
- Our relationship will never change, it will always be the same as it was (is) in the early years of our marriage. I am sorry, this just is not true. The relationship will change, the thrills will be different. Consider this from a FB post I read, “Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.”
- The Honeymoon Excitement can be maintained or resurrected. I suppose I have to be the one to tell you that you have to go to work, if you have children then the role of parenting will impact that honeymoon feeling, and bills will come in the mail. Your love will have to change from infatuation to intention (read the above quote again).
- If my spouse loves me they will know my needs and wants without me having to tell them. NO ONE, not even your spouse can read your mind. Tell each other your wants and needs. Husbands, follow your wives interests on Pinterest if you want her to think you can read her mind.
- We should be just alike in everything. We should have the same likes and dislikes, think the same, and do the same activities. NO! I am not sure I would like Amy if she were exactly like me. You are different people with different backgrounds and different genders – you will have differences. Celebrate those differences and learn to try new things together.
There are other UNREALISTIC expectations, what you can think of?