“Behold children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth.Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!”Psalm 127:3-5 (ESV)
“Like arrows in the hands of a warrior.” What a great statement! A well-skilled archer has effective aim. I know a few avid bow hunters. They practice, study methods, upgrade equipment, and are able to be on target. Me not so much. I am not a good archer because I neglect four basic rules of archery:
- The Direction I point the arrow is important,
- The Strength of the pull has effect,
- Properly Timing the Release is valuable, and
- Accuracy in Aiming is vital.
Apply these to raising children and you understand more about what the Psalmist has in mind.
- What Direction am I pointing my children in?
- What Influence (Pull) am I giving them with my lifestyle?
- Do I let go (Release) them into situations (or expose them to certain things of the world) before they are ready? Or am I hanging on too long?
- What are my goals (where am I Aiming) for me and my children?
Paul tells fathers (and mothers by default), ” . . . do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Eph 6:4)
Here are a list of Parental Rules to Model and to Teach so we can be skilled archers.
- Put purity above pleasure.
- Place others before yourself.
- Be more industrious and less lazy.
- As an adult be more mature and less childish.
- Demonstrate service over power.
- Be Christ-like.