Parents, future parents, aunts, uncles, and grandparents allow me to be quite candid with you. You have influence over the children in your life. I know, I know, we think we have lost influence to TV, the internet, social media, video games, and their peers. Yet I keep reading reports and seeing evidence that the number one influence in a child’s (including teens) life is still their parents.
Our influence includes what we teach and what we model. Consider the nephew of Abraham – Lot.
Lot was the father of two girls. Lot settled in the land of the plains and set up house keeping near the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. This region and these cities had a very perverted life-style (read Genesis 19). God decided to destroy them but first allowed Lot and his family to leave.
But something happened to Lot’s family while they were in these cities. Although they may not have participated in all the sins of that city, and although three of them escaped physically, they did not escape emotionally and spiritually unscathed.
While still in-town, Lot offered his virgin daughters to the men of the city who wanted to have sexual relations with the men who came to retrieve Lot and his family. Later after their escape, Lot’s daughters each in turn inebriated their father and committed incest with him.
“Wait! That is not Lot’s influence, that is the influence of Sodom and Gomorrah!” Are you sure? What if Lot had not offered his daughters? What if Lot had not pitched his tent toward Sodom? What if Lot had taught his family more about God? What if Lot did not allow his daughters to associate so closely with the men of Sodom, they were you might remember engaged to men who decided to stay in Sodom and not escape with their fiances.
Lot’s negative influence was at least two-fold.
- He placed his family near sinful influences that he did not appear to combat.
- He offered his daughters to be used.
Parents, here is my question for us. Are we influencing our children to be like a sinful world by 1) allowing them to associate (participate) too closely to sin, 2) not modeling proper behavior ourselves, and 3) by not providing alternatives that bring them closer to God and His people?
Just something to think about this morning.