Maybe you can help me understand. I find difficulty with the recent announcement by Al and Tipper Gore that they are separating after 40 years of marriage. Maybe I find this difficult because my paternal grandparents were married nearly 50 years when my grandfather passed away. Maybe I find this difficult because my maternal grandparents were married over 50 years when my grandmother passed away. Maybe this is disturbing because my parents celebrate their 50th anniversary TODAY – well today is their anniversary, but we will celebrate later. What ever happened to “for better or for worse?” What ever happened to making a commitment for life? Why are so many couples giving up?
Here is some advice for sticking together.
- Remember that love is not only a warm emotion.
- Love is sacrificial toward the other person.
- Love will grow if you will feed it.
- Make more deposits in your spouse’s “love bank” than you do withdrawals.
- Be the best person you can be for your spouse.
- Marriage is not a 50% -50% venture. My dad taught us that marriage is a 100% venture. You give 100% to your spouse and anything they give in return is a bonus.
- Continue to court your spouse, write love notes, bring flowers, chocolates, or whatever they like as a regular token of love.
- Help them with the work they do around the house, yard, etc. Amy and I cook together, clean house together, garden together, mow the yard together, etc. Did you notice the key word – TOGETHER.
- Learn to laugh together.
- Learn how to cope (together) with problems that arise.
- Spend time with each other — For Amy and me I do not think we can spend too much time together.
I think I’ll go home for lunch.